Ignacia

         When I was a child, luxury was fur coats, evening dresses and villas by the sea.  Later on, I thought it meant leading the life of an intellectual.  Now I feel that it is also being able to live out a passion for a man or a woman.

-- Annie Ernaux, Simple Passion

Why Igna is amazing

• Creative

• Observant

• Persistent

• Playful

• Smart

• Stunning body

• Igna is unguarded and vulnerable.

• Igna is reluctant to fall in love, but blooms when she does.

• Igna reasons from first principles rather than just assuming that her opinion is correct.

• Igna does not fully understand how beautiful she is, so she is pleasantly surprised when I compliment her rather than expecting compliments from me.

• Igna does not pretend to be something that she is not.

• Igna says what she means—she is not passive-aggressive.

• Igna does not feel entitled, so I have the pleasure of giving her gifts when it feels right to do so, rather than feeling obliged to do so.

Why Igna is the right woman for me

• Igna consistently says that she wants me to be myself rather than trying to change me.

• Igna smiles readily, and I can easily tell when her smile is genuine.

• Igna is often ready to go out before I am.

• Igna consistently enjoys dressing up.

• Igna has mad internet skills.

• Igna taught herself English, and continues to improve.

• Igna knows my faults but still thinks that I am an amazing person.

• Igna brings out the best side of me.

• Given her consistent humility, transparency, and attention to detail, I feel that I can trust her with private information.

• Igna proactively contributes to my projects in unexpected ways.

• Igna appreciates the value of an older partner with greater life experience.

• Igna is happy to be the big spoon in bed when I am tired.

• Igna lets me sleep in.  Once I am awake, she greets me as the big spoon and a shower of kisses.

• Igna is comfortable providing PDAs that calm me when I might otherwise feel uncomfortable.

• In the rare cases that she calls me out or asks me to change, she clearly does so for my own benefit.

• Igna is not intellectually intimidated by me.

• Igna does not sulk for days when she is upset at me.

Why we are right for each other

• We have the same favorite place—her head on my chest while lying together in bed.

• We accept those things about each other than neither of us can change.

• We are truthful and open, including about the difficult subjects.

• The more we share the more we find we have in common.

• We believe in growing together as a couple rather than trying to remain our current selves.

• We are a 35:53 palindrome, but neither of us feels a generational divide.

• Compatible personality types—my INTJ to her INTP.

• We give each other space when we need it.

• Neither of us try to stop the other from doing things we enjoy.

• We are similarly neurodivergent, so we often understand each other when other people do not understand us.

• Neither of us quite fit in our home country’s society, but we fit well together.

• We connect so well and know, based on our life experiences, how rare that is.  So, neither of us would leave the other for someone we might hope would be an even better partner.

• We share many strengths as well as weaknesses.  We support each other’s weaknesses because we can relate to them.

• We enjoy some of the same card and computer games.

• We are almost the same height (I am ~ 5 cm. taller), which is perfect for kissing and holding hands while walking.

[Life] isn't about material things; it's about love.  And you can never anticipate love.

-- Vicki Myron and Bret Witter, Dewey: The Small-Town Library Cat Who Touched the World